“The opposite of courage is not cowardice, it’s conformity.” Jim Hightower
Have you been so busy making a living, that you forgot to make a life?
You’re working 60-hour weeks. The overtime too. You work as hard as you can, and as much as you can, to provide the best for your family. You come home late, eat convenience foods with little – or no – nutritional value, stumble into a shower, and then collapse – exhausted – into bed. Because you want the best for your family…
Because you believe that it is your responsibility to provide for your family… Your duty…
Then one morning you wake to realise that presents are no substitute for presence. Whilst you have been providing for your family, you’ve been removing yourself from the equation. You are “married to your job“.
The damage has already been done. Your relationships. Your health. Your confidence and self-esteem.
And all that you wanted was to provide the best for your family…
You’re not alone. According to figures recently published by The Health and Safety Executive, 15.4 million working days were lost due to work-related stress, depression or anxiety in 2017/18. (*Health and Safety at Work summary statistics for Great Britain, 2018).
I have been there too…
My relationship with my eldest daughter’s mother disintegrated when she confronted me with being “married to my job”. Everything that I held dear was ripped from under my feet. My identity, my passion, my purpose. My FAMILY.
My health suffered – both mental and physical. I wasn’t eating properly, or at the right times. I then found myself craving energy drinks, snacks and chocolates to “fuel” my body with the energy that I was denying it through my “diet”. I was becoming dependent upon caffeine to paper over the cracks of a lack of sleep – the constant lethargy a by-product of a lack of exercise and nutrition.
There appeared to be no light at the end of the tunnel. It’s a vicious downward spiral…
You are conditioned to accept your lot in life. Don’t speak up. Don’t speak out. “Man up!” (Once, when I raised my concerns about my work-life imbalance with my Regional Manager, his advice was for me to “leave” my wife! (Not his choice of words, might I add.)
Something HAS to change! If you do what you’ve always done, then you’ll get what you’ve always gotten, and that, after all, is Einstein’s definition of insanity. You see, when you’re out of balance, it has a ripple effect on all areas of your being: Nutrition, motivation, relationships, confidence, stress, sleep, energy and productivity – personal and professional.
I managed to extricate myself from the “hamster-wheel” existence. I now support professionals and high-achievers to realise a more fulfilling balance – empowering people just like you to do more of what you love, with who you love to do it with.
I synthesise confidence and clarity from stress and overwhelm.
If you would like to take advantage of the opportunity to explore how you will benefit from my eight-week programme, “The Art of Balanced Living”, and begin to take back control of your life, then click on the image below to apply for a complimentary consultation.
It is possible to follow your passion.
And you can too…
“When I contacted Colin I was having serious problems in my life, my work was causing me a great deal of stress and I felt helpless in being able to tackle the situation.
The transformation has been dramatic, I am a far more confident and decisive person, I am more aware of my surroundings and how I can control my emotions in difficult situations.
I have a new enthusiasm for life and credit must go to Colin for helping that transformation to happen.” (Gareth)
It’s all about the balance.
There are two reasons that you are not living the life that you want to be living.
The first is clarity.
You have a very clear picture of what you don’t want… You don’t want to be unhealthy, unhappy, unfulfilled, for example… But what do you want? And how clear is that image? What does healthy, happy or fulfilled REALLY look like to you?
When you are able to paint a clear picture of your goal, you are a step closer to realising it. If you are not able to see your target, then how can you hope to take aim at it?
Consider the analogy of a satellite-navigation system – the more detailed the co-ordinates that you enter, the closer that you will find yourself to your “destination”. Take “Big Ben” for example… If you were to type “London” into your hypothetical sat-nav, you would be looking for the proverbial needle in a 1 572km² haystack. If, however, you were to type in the actual postcode of Big Ben (SW1A 0AA) you would find it extremely difficult not to emerge into the shadows of one of London’s most iconic landmarks…
The second reason that you’re not living the life that you want to be living, is a lack of confidence. You may call it fear, but when you are carrying the shield of confidence, fear need not be an issue… It’s also through a lack of confidence that you reinforce your reliance on your comfort zone, and continue to fuel your current paradigms.
There is what psychologists call a “confidence-competence loop” – the more competence you develop, the more confident you become. Here, however, is where the problem lies – it’s the lack of initial confidence that prevents you from taking the first steps towards developing that competence. As my mentor, Bob Proctor would say, “It’s the start that stops most people.”
You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to become great. Remember also the advice of Lao Tzu, “The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
Today is the first day of the rest of your life… How much longer are you prepared to hide in the shadows? Something needs to change! If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got. You need a different perspective, or, as Einstein says, “a different level of thinking.”
You are different. Unique. Special. So why choose to live your life on other people’s terms? You are destined for something greater.
What would it mean to you, to be living life on your terms? How would it feel to wake each morning – fueled with a passion and a keen sense of anticipation for the day ahead? How does it feel to know that you are making a difference, and that you are living the life that you were always destined to live? How does it feel to radiate energy, confidence and vitality?
“Change is inevitable – personal growth is a choice.” (Bob Proctor.) Do you settle, or do you choose growth? You have a decision to make, and, as Tony Robbins says, “it is in your moments of decision that your destiny is shaped.” You can choose to reinforce your excuses, or you can make a decision, and start NOW, to take action towards the life of your dreams…
Make a decision. Shape your destiny. Cut through your excuses and design your new life.
Or don’t – the choice is yours…
- “Colin is a versatile and intuitive coach. He allows you to absorb his coaching at your own pace and is always readily available to support and clarify as you go through your journey of self discovery and improvement. I would definitely recommend Colin to anyone looking to move towards their greatness.”
- “Colin supported, encouraged, motivated, and empowered me in my decision to move to the South Coast and adopt a healthier, happier lifestyle. He helped me make sense of the “hurdles” along the way and to see the bigger picture when I felt stuck and disillusioned. I don’t think I really believed that I would be living the lifestyle I dreamt of, but the truth is that I am! There are still tweaks and improvements to make, and with Colin’s support and positivity I now believe that I really can have what I want! I can’t thank Colin enough for the changes he’s helped me to make in my life.”
- “I now feel more focused. My confidence has ascended since I started the coaching, thanks to Colin, and I feel happy and in control with my new found confidence. I now believe in myself. I feel strong enough to accomplish my goal I had only dreamt about.”
Schedule your complimentary breakthrough session, here and unleash your true potential – armed with the sword of clarity and the shield of confidence… It’s time to take back control!
Alternatively, you are more than welcome to attend one of my regular seminars, workshops or webinars for actionable, practical advice, hints and tips… (Click here for details of upcoming events.)
There are no strangers, only friends that we haven’t yet met. I look forward to meeting you soon…
Have a GREAT day!